Hello again!
If
there are any of you that don’t read my personal blog, although you totally
should (shameless plug), there’s something you should know before I proceed: I
want to be an actress. Not very practical, but it’s what I love and am going to
school for, and it’s what sparked this post in the first place. With that being
said, everyone knows how cut-throat the acting business is and how greatly your
looks play into your success. Without going too far into the depths of my confidence
issues, I have always wondered whether I was pretty enough to be a professional
actress or if people would just laugh at me for thinking people would actually
want to look at me in T.V show or movie.
Naturally, I then began comparing myself to celebrities that are gorgeous and
have obviously been extremely successful in the business (as many of us tend to
do). Suddenly, an idea hit me: why? Why do all girls want to be beautiful like
celebrities? Why is this our goal and how did we start comparing ourselves to
women who we have never even met?
What do
we do to look more like these females that we idolize? We go on insane diet or
exercise programs, we change our makeup and our hair, our clothes, and it
consumes use to the point that we eventually crave their lifestyle and
everything that they have. And of course, we become depressed when we see that
we can never have any of it. As a part of my recent realization, I asked “why”
once more because, as we tend to forget, they’re just people like you and me.
Another
thing that we tend to forget about celebrities is what their money and
connections yield for them: such as personal trainers, stylists and photoshop,
just to name a few. All of this is to ensure that everything that we see is
flawless, which we then mistake as always being real. They’re not actually “perfect”
people, so why strive to be just like another person that is merely our equal?
Celebrities get famous for being unique or special in some way, which tells us
that we should be embracing our own quirks instead of trying to capture and
repeat someone else’s!
In
short, why compare yourself to another person when you’re completely different?
It will only cause discouragement and disappointment for basically no reason
whatsoever. What I suggest is to turn our obsessions that we are constantly
comparing ourselves to into inspirations by embracing the aspects that we can
learn from them to improve our lives in some way. For instance, I LOVE Audrey
Hepburn, but instead of focusing on how skinny she is and how I will never be
able to achieve that look, I can watch how natural and believable her acting is
and use it to help me grow. You can do this with music, dancing, modeling-
learn from these people without constantly comparing your appearance to theirs.
This mindset is difficult at first because of today’s media, but it feels so
good and rewarding once you get the hang of it! Comment about some of your
icons and how you learned from them!
Peace and love!
Emmy
